Control the things you can control… by TaraD

Almost a year into the pandemic and I am sitting here writing this with a heart full of gratitude.

That sentence sounds strange. How is gratitude possible in a world where there is so much suffering? It doesn’t mean that I am oblivious or unsympathetic to what is happening right now. In fact it is quite the opposite. I often empathise too much (if there is such a thing). I have shred tears over the loss of people I may have had the honour of only meeting once. We also lost two beautiful women from our own family during 2020. But I decided that for my own sake and for my children’s, that I would choose to control the things that I can control. To let go of what I can’t and to be truly present, as none of us know what tomorrow has in store for us.

Yesterday I got up early and had a great plan for the day, but my youngest choose to take our day on a different journey by getting a bead from a toy stuck up his nose! We had to make a dash to the local gp and then onto A & E! As I sat in the waiting room with him, I thought about how lucky I am to have this service within 12 minutes of my home. I thought about how I was grateful he wasn’t in any pain and how he could breathe through the other nostril. I chose not to sit in a panicked, fearful state, thinking of all the worst case scenario’s (which I would have previously,) but instead in a calm, grateful mindset. I asked where I could get some water and a nurse went out of his way to buy me one from the canteen! I sat there thinking how lucky we were, while other patients were shouting at staff and complaining about the wait. Guess what, our patience and gratitude paid off as we were seen after about an hour (which is super fast compared to previous visits). The GP’s original plan for anesthetists etc, were all avoided when another Dr said, “lets try this first” and managed to coax my three year old to breathe out as hard as possible and dislodge the object himself! I was grateful and relieved, the two Dr’s also told me they were grateful for a good news story from their shift with very little intervention needed!


So why am I sharing all that? Well because we always have two choices. One is to panic, shout, fear, complain. Focus on all the doom and gloom and worst case scenario’s. Or we can choose to trust, to stay calm, avoid negativity and focus on what you can do in this current moment right now. What can you do that will make you feel great? Can you turn up some music and dance around your kitchen? Will you feel silly? Maybe, but will it lift your mood? DEFINITELY! Can you go for a walk? Can you take some time to sit and read a book or start a project that you have always wanted to do? Let’s use this time as an opportunity. Find things to be grateful for in your life today and I promise you, your life will change.

Stay safe,

Tara x


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RAK day by TaraD

Mark Twain once said “Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.”

These words have never meant so much to the world as they do today, where we live in such a fast paced world that we have forgotten some of the simpler things in life, like kindness.

The Random Acts of Kindness day, also known as RAK Day, officially started in 2004 after co-founder Josh de Jong
was stuck in Auckland, New Zealand traffic one afternoon and watched some irate drivers ahead of him getting into
a bit of a road rage.

He began to think… “what would it be like if on one day every person in New Zealand was kind to a stranger?”
That was the beginning of a movement that becoming more and more popular across some nations and is
gained wide spread popularity on social media. In New Zealand, on September 1st , the whole country comes
together to celebrate this very important day. This is also a great example of how one person CAN make a
Being kind is not difficult or very time consuming so why aren’t we all being kinder to each other? There are so
many small actions any of us can do at any given time to be kind to another. We shouldn’t need to have a
designated day to be kind to ourselves and others, it should part of our daily lives. In New Zealand you can even
download and print the fun RAK cards that you can leave with messages and gifts anywhere.

Here are some of our favourites:
Compliment a stranger
Write a note to someone telling them how much you appreciate them
Let someone go ahead of you in line
Leave a nice message on a stranger’s car
Write a card to someone overseas or an elderly person in your community centre
Drop off flowers on someone’s desk
Donate blood
Buy extra food with your shopping and drop it off at a food bank
Wash someone else’s car
Pay the bus fare for the passenger behind you
Pay for a cup of coffee to the person in line behind you
Leave a thank you note for someone who served you that day, like the table waiter.
Leave books you no longer need in public places for others to pick up
Have your wedding guests donate to your favourite charity in lieu of wedding gifts

Can you think of ideas for showing kindness to others and drop us a line in the comments box below?

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