Mindset is everything…. by TaraD

“When you have a ‘solution thinking mindset’ and choose to focus 80% of your thoughts  / words on solutions – you will not only be heading more speedily to long-term success, but you will immediately feel better in the moment.” Karen Salmansohn

For those of you who don’t know who Karen is, she is the best-selling author of Be Happy Dammit, among many other books.  I thought her quote was appropriate for the theme of this short blog: solutions and mindset.

By now everyone has a story to tell about the state of the world and their own experience within it.  Within our own diversity as human beings everyone has approached it in different ways; some people have chosen to dwell in misery and continue to hold on tight to the drama that is splashed all over the media, others have accepted the facts and started looking towards the future and finding options and solutions.

I personally have chosen to surround myself with positive things, people and situations.  I’m not ignoring the situation and hiding under a blanket. I am simply looking for the silver lining in the positives in my life instead of dwelling on the negatives, or on what’s broken.  In reality we’re all facing similar things, but it is our mindset that makes all the difference.

Let’s make this article more specific to the thousands of brides who had to cancel their weddings.  Or did they?  I’ve been following brides from around the world, who find themselves in the same situation, and was pleasantly surprised to see how some of them handled the situation and came up with different solutions for their story.

Of course these ideas will not work for everyone, based on several circumstances, but it is just to give you a glimpse of possibilities; where couples chose not to dwell on what IS, but chose to get excited about what WILL BE.

For some couples keeping the original date of their wedding was important, and they didn’t mind giving up the reception part. I’ve seen couples who held a wedding celebration with just themselves (bride and groom) and the celebrant in their own backyard that was beautifully decorated.  They had a beautiful cake, toast and flowers.  They chose to hold a reception and renew their vows on their 1st wedding anniversary.

I’ve seen couples getting married in the church, only themselves and the parents were present (and distanced appropriately as per the rules in place at the moment).  They chose to say their vows now and hold the celebration next year.

I’ve seen couples getting married in the Registrar’s office, or City Hall, depending on what country you live in.  Only the couple and witnesses were present, at appropriate distances of course.  They chose not to do the church wedding and hold a celebration next year for their anniversary.

I’ve seen couples get their family and friends together to get enough chairs to hold a wedding / small reception on a farm, out in the open, where everyone could sit a bit further away from each other.  They chose to have only family present in order to be able to hold the wedding.  Everyone chipped in with flowers, chairs, decorations…definitely a tale for their story book.

I’ve seen many couples who just accepted the current situation as a fact and made a decision to postpone their wedding until next year because for them it’s still important to have the wedding as originally planned with all their loved ones present.  But what I have seen is a lot of them getting excited about the chance to ‘revise’.   Many of them now have a chance to review and change any part they were not completely happy with, like the venue.  Others have decided to make their wedding next year ‘bigger and better’ to make up for the delay.

Some couples chose to do a celebration of the original date of their wedding, whether it’s just a toast in the garden, or a movie and pizza night and do a video to send to their family and guests with the invite for the new date next year.  Some couples have done some really cool photo / video montage of their story to send out as the new ‘wedding invitation’ for next year.

Not all these ideas work for everybody as everybody’s situation is different and so is the mindset.  This is just something small to give all our brides a burst of positivity and some excitement about what WILL BE.  Fall in love with your wedding plans again, it is not so much about WHEN you will get married, but more about WHAT do you want that day to represent?  You have a chance to review what is really important for you, who do you really want to share it with, what can you do to make it extra special?

We will be bringing you some trends from around the world soon to help you feel that excitement once again…

Diana x

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Destination Weddings by TaraD

Whenever you get the opportunity to combine your favourite things the answer should always be,

“YES LETS DO IT!!!”

So when we were asked if we would like to shoot a wedding in Portugal this summer, we checked the diary and blocked off the dates on one computer while booking flights on another!

Accommodation, plans, logistics, timetables, (THE LANGUAGE BARRIER!) etc. would all be worked out later, our bags were being packed and we were off!

Bride & Groom in front of Batalha Monastery

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why the excitement? Well for us as Photographers we always love to work on something different.

Bride & Groom, Wedding Portugal

 

 

 

 

 

We have shot quite a few destination weddings over the years, often hopping on a flight from Kerry to Stanstead and travelling to as faraway places as Sydney!

Destination Wedding Sydney, Australia.

 

 

 

 

If you haven’t met us yet, you won’t know that we love meeting people from all over the world. In the next month alone we have at least 6 couples from outside Ireland who have asked us to shoot their day. We both feel that we were born to travel and if we can’t physically go then the next best thing is to meet people from other countries and learn from them.

Destination Wedding, South Farm, Hertfordshire, England.

 

 

 

 

Destination Wedding, Clock Barn, Tufton Warren, England

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Destination wedding, Oban, Scotland

 

 

 

 

 

 

We are also incredibly competitive (towards each other) and we love to create art that will forever hang in someone’s home reminding them of a happy moment/ day/ time in their lives…. and did I mention that we love to travel?

 

 

 

 

 

So for our current and past couples who live abroad and often say oh,

“I would love if you could shoot my sister’s/brother’s/friends wedding but it is in another country”….

Our answer is always, “we have passports!”

So whenever the opportunity arises that someone finds us and asks, “Is it a possibility that you would travel for our wedding?” the answer will 99% of the time be YES!

Will you be part of our next adventure?……..

 

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Hello readers! by TaraD

My name is Diana Ascenso (my friends call me Di) and I’m the new member on Tara and Dave’s team.

We’ve only been working together for a few weeks and so far it’s been quite amazing and lots of fun!
Sometimes we work together and sometimes we each work individually which makes for great work / life balance and makes Tara and Dave the best bosses ever!
I moved here from New York where I have been working in the fashion and graphic design industries for the last 20 years. I then qualified in Photography and now I combine all my skills to create one-of-a-kind products for Tara and Dave.
Besides acting as a second shooter when it’s very busy, I also work on designing one-of-a-kind wedding albums for all of you beautiful couples out there.

By now I feel like I have got to know many of you through the amazing wedding photos. I am looking forward to working with more clients in person, as we develop our plans here and that will help me to further personalise your albums.

Until then I will be keeping  you posted with our adventures! There is a very exciting and busy summer ahead!
Diana x

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Wedding traditions, what will you be sticking to for your big day? by TaraD

Wedding rings

Wedding ring

Your wedding and engagement ring are worn on the fourth finger of the left hand, reason being that it was believed that a

vein running straight from your heart ended in this finger therefore connecting the ring from your love directly to your

heart.

 

Bridesmaid dresses

Matching bridesmaid dresses are actually meant to be good luck! This superstition comes from the Roman times, people

believed that evil spirts would attend the wedding to curse the wedding couple. So in order to trick the evil spirits,

bridesmaids had to wear the exact same dress as the bride to confuse the spirits and bring luck to the wedding! They must

have been very understanding brides!!:D

Veils

Veils were also worn in the Roman and Greek times as it was thought that this would protect the bride form evil spirits!

Wedding veil blowing in the wind.

Wedding cake

Ancient Rome again gives us the wedding cake tradition. While now we get to enjoy our favourite cake in the evening the

poor brides in those tomes had to endure a loaf of bread being broken over their head for fertility luck, I can’t imagine too

many brides today that would let their hair get ruined with crumbs!!

Tying the knot

Tying the knot isn’t just a catchy phrase, this is a phrase brought in from different cultures such as Celtic, Hindu and

Egypt where the hands of the wedding couple would be tied together to show their commitment to each other as a knot is

very hard to break once tied tight enough.

Over the threshold

Carrying your newly married partner over the threshold isn’t just for a great picture opportunity but tradition has it that

this protects again from evil spirits!

Groom carrying bride.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Honeymoon

Honeymoons weren’t always a treat for a newly married couple, ancient Norse couples went into hiding after the wedding

and a family member would bring them a cup of honey wine for 30 days — or one moon — which is how the term

“honeymoon” originated.

Adeline x

 

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Ice Cream For Breakfast Day by TaraD

With today being ice cream for breakfast day , I thought it was a great opportunity to talk about ice cream at weddings!! Firstly some history! In the 1960’s Florence Rappaport came up with the idea to make ice cream for breakfast to keep her children entertained when a huge blizzard hit Rochester, New York. Every year her children kept up the tradition and now it is celebrated worldwide. So thank you Florence for giving us an excuse to have ice cream for breakfast!!

Whatever time of year you are getting married, ice cream can be a great addition to your day! Here are some ideas that will give your wedding a quirky twist!

Have something different!  

Want to get a non traditional wedding cake?  Why not opt for an ice cream cake and give your guests something different! Try going for a 2 tier ice cream cake or mini ice cream cone inspired cake pops or even Baked Alaska!

Something to keep your guests entertained!

Allow your guests to make their own ice cream and hire an ice cream machine for your wedding reception! Make it a day everyone will never forget and the kids at the wedding will love it!!!

Get someone else to do it!

If you would prefer to have your guests relax and have a bit of fun why not hire a wedding cart and let them do the job for you! This is a great way to keep your guests from getting peckish and will get everyone up and moving around! Even a mix of ice cream and crepes instead of an evening buffet!

Beach themed wedding!

If you’re going for a beach themed wedding why not have ice cream keepsakes as wedding favours such as customised ice cream scoops! Have some fun signs hanging places saying phrases such as:

‘All you need is love and maybe a little ice cream’

‘Life is too short eat dessert first!’

‘Let us treat you to some ice cream for making our day complete!’

Fun fact: Research has shown that even just a spoonful of ice cream lights up the same pleasure centre in the brain as winning money or listening to your favourite music! So not only on your wedding day will it look good, taste good but it will also make everyone even happier on the day!! 😉

So go on get planning and don’t forget to have an ice cream while you do it!!! 😀

Happy ice cream day!!

~ Adeline

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How do we make each wedding unique? by TaraD

Often we get asked how do we make each wedding different. Well it’s quite easy really 🙂 We take inspiration from our couples, the locations that they have chosen and their personalities.

We spend a lot of time before the wedding chatting to our couples to get to know them. Sometimes this is at our home, in a pub or restaurant or sometimes at while the kids are having a play date. Our style is very informal, our approach is also the same. The more relaxed a couple are around us the more fun we can have on their wedding day.

Alan and Courtney were married last week at the beautiful Ballyseede Castle in Tralee. The day before their wedding they called to our home and we drank coffee, Courtney played a game of catch the hens and our rooster “Lucky”. Then while Alan and myself chatted about how they got to know each other, Courtney popped on a bee suit and went to investigate the bee hive with Dave. The whole afternoon was very enjoyable and relaxed and we even managed to fit in a few photos too!

This meant that when we arrived to photograph the wedding the next day, we had stories to talk about to the rest of the family and Courtney and Alan were completely at ease with us. We had also found out that Courtney loves comics, while Alan tests video games for a living and this is how we came up with the idea for these images.

We LOVE what we do (I am sure you can tell that from our images) and we also want to challenge our creative minds on every single shoot so we don’t get bored! The creative mind needs to be challenged constantly! It is the blessing and curse of any artist!

So if you hire us, expect to LAUGH a lot, CRY a little (as it does get emotional) and most IMPORTANTLY have lots and lots of FUN!!!!

Wedding photo’s shouldn’t be boring, they should tell a story about you and your families for generations to come.

Make it the best story ever! 🙂

Bride reading a comic, groom playing game boy
Funny Wedding image, Tara Donoghue Photography

 

 

 

 

 

 

To see more from Courtney and Alan’s amazing wedding check out their slideshow here:

 

 

 

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