How to Choose a Wedding Photographer Who Understands You

Where to start….

Let’s be honest— when you’re choosing your wedding photographer, you’re not just picking someone to take pretty pictures.

You’re choosing someone who will be right there with you through some of the most emotional, intimate, joyful, nerve-wracking, and unforgettable moments of your life.

Someone who gets you — not just your Pinterest board.

Here’s how to find the one that clicks (pun intended 😉).

1. Look Beyond the Portfolio

Yes, you want beautiful images. But you also want to feel something when you look at them.

Instead of just asking, “Do I like their style?” ask:

“Do these images feel real?”
“Can I imagine myself in these moments?”
“Do the photos capture energy, emotion, stillness… connection?”

A photographer who gets you will show you more than poses — they’ll show you presence.

2. Ask the Right Questions (And Notice the Ones They Ask You)

When you chat with a wedding photographer, ask more than just the logistics. Try:

“What do you love most about weddings?”
“What’s your approach on the day — are you more hands-on or do you melt into the background?”
“What do your couples often say about you afterward?”

And pay attention to what they ask you. A photographer who asks about your story, your dynamic, your vibe — they’re the ones tuning in. The ones who want to feel the day with you, not just shoot it.

3. Connection Over Perfection

It’s easy to get distracted by awards or viral Instagram images. But perfection doesn’t hold meaning. Connection does.

When your wedding photographer truly understands you, they’ll know when to step back, when to step in, and how to gently capture the small, sacred things — a hand squeeze, a nervous giggle, a deep breath before you walk down the aisle.

Those aren’t just moments. They’re memories in the making.

4. Vibe Matters More Than You Think

You’ll spend more time with your photographer on your wedding day than almost anyone else — sometimes even your partner. It matters how they make you feel.

Ask yourself:

Do I feel comfortable around them?
Do they listen?
Do I feel seen?

Because when you’re relaxed and feel safe being yourself, that’s when the magic happens.

5. Find Someone Who Cares About the In-Between

The big moments are important, of course. But it’s often the quiet ones in between — the glance before the vows, the tear you didn’t realize slipped down your cheek, the way your parents hold hands when they think no one’s watching — that end up meaning the most.

A photographer who truly gets you? They’ll notice those moments. And you’ll be so grateful that they did.

📬 Thinking we might be a match?

If you’re looking for a wedding photographer who values presence over pressure, and who captures the day not just as it looked but as it felt — I’d love to hear your story.

Let’s find the magic in your quiet moments.

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