Letters to Cailean week 2 by TaraD

So as we are settling into the new year, Christmas has become a distant memory for most!

Here is a shot of Cailean as a shepherd in his first school play!

January has been a busy time of planning and meetings for us as so many couples got engaged over the holidays!

We are preparing for wedding fairs over the next few weeks (Silversprings, Cork this week and the INEC next week) and our “quiet month” has been manic! 🙂

How many of you have been sticking with your new years resolutions? Or how many have ditched it already?! 🙂

I’m sticking with mine so far, for those of you who didn’t see the start of it and have a spare five mins click here…

Letters to Cailean – Tara’s new year project

Dear Cailean,

It is completely normal for you having brides and grooms coming to visit and discuss their plans with mum and dad and you probably know more about weddings than children two or three times your age!

At Christmas we met two grooms who were preparing for their wedding and you asked us where the bride was, so we took the opportunity to explain that love exists in many different forms.
Sometimes two women love each other, sometimes two men love each other. Sometimes a wedding can have two brides or two grooms or a bride and a groom.

Frank Ocean puts it simply as, “ I believe that marriage isn’t between a man and a woman but between love and love.”
So when you replied.” Cool, can I watch something on the iPad now?” We smiled and wished that many adults could view the world with such simplicity as through the eyes of a child.


So as you escape to your treehouse with the new furniture you decided to put in (a chair and your suitcase), I admire your independence and practicality. You have chosen two clever objects, a chair for you to sit on and look out at the world and a suitcase full of essentials and clothes to keep you warm in this weather! As parents it is our job to give you the right tools needed for life but quite often we learn a lot more from you. Life can be simplified, adults often overcomplicate it.

We should step back focus on what is important which is LOVE.

“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.”
Richard L Evans.

Until next week!
Mum xxx

Missed the first letter to Cailean? Read it here….http://www.taradonoghuephotography.com/letters-to-cailean-new-year-project/

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Letters to Cailean – Tara’s new year project by TaraD

So as we approach back to school and work, planning multiple goals and new year resolutions (that are often certain to fail), is the norm at this time of year.

Many of us feel pretty shattered from late nights of partying (I wish!). Or if you have been working like us, you may feel delighted to have had such an amazing Christmas working with great people, but you are also looking forward to a few days off and a hot bath to ease the aches and pains. (Having cameras strapped to you for over 30 hours in 3 days makes muscles hurt that you didn’t know you had!).

So back to the resolutions! This year I have decided to do something a little different which combines the two things that I love the most, my family and photography.

I am going to write weekly letters to Cailean (my four year old), with accompanying photographs (which I will also print and NOT LEAVE ON THE COMPUTER FOREVER!)

At the end of it I plan to create a book with the photographs and letters which will be a nice keepsake and reminder of 2016. All going well (now I’m being super ambitious, it may be something I will continue for other years).

I am hoping that one day he may read them and it will give him an insight about life, love and the general day to day chaos that our family is! 🙂 They will be pretty short and sweet, so it isn’t like it will be taking up my already non existent free time 🙂

It is something that I feel will make me focus, give me headspace to take a photo that I am not being paid to take, that is just for me. An image that will record something that I want to take, be it on good days or bad for us to look back on.

I feel that it will encourage me to document our own memories more and as our gift is capturing other people’s stories, why shouldn’t we also be recording our own?

As I have heard many times it is like a painter not wanting to paint his own house or a plumber not fixing his own leaking tap!

So here goes and I am sharing them with you so that I can’t give up easily half way through! 🙂  ….

Dear Cailean,

It’s the start of a new year, 2016, which for many is a time of reflection, planning and setting goals for the coming year.

Usually they include things like:

  • Loosing weight, (which your dad and myself are going to attempt and has already been put off until tomorrow LOL).
  • Save money for holidays, (you have already asked if you can go to see where Santa lives so we better start saving now!).
  • Learn something new, well you do that every day and we also learn from you so you have that one sussed.  The list goes on so I’m sure you get the idea.

Anyway one of my new years resolutions is to write to you, so that one day you can read these and have an insight into what was happening in your mad house and how much we love you 🙂 

Today is a rare day off, we have been working all over the holidays so haven’t got to spend as much time with you as we would like. But we are about to snuggle up in our “cinema” as you call it and watch a movie.

It’s moments like these that make me realise how lucky I am.

 I hope that when you are a grown man you will still want to come and hang out with your parents every now and then 🙂 

Thank you for bringing such life and love to our home.

Lots of love,

Tara (as you only call me mum when you are tired/sick or up to something and trying to get around me!). xxxx



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